@catsbackrI am new to this site, and didn't mean to cause waves. I am always just trying to learn, grow, improve. I appreciate being challenged. I wasn't upset, if I am wrong, I want to know I am wrong so I can learn from it.
The only problem with forums, is similar to text messages, sometimes intent, connotation, meaning, get lost if not written exactly as you intend.
First, yes, it was an NCAA umpire, and a pretty good one, at that. But keep in mind, this was during Summer tournaments for 14-18 year olds, not sanctioned HS and college games where there is usually a site supervisor.
In a youth tournament, at least where I am from, if a fan is getting out of line, it is the responsibility of the coach to tamp it down. I believe that was backed up by many people on here saying "go to the coach".
As mentioned, if a fan is truly unruly, in the end, the game could theoretically be forfeited.
I believe the intent of that "quote" is to let the coach know, you need to handle your fan (who is undoubtedly a parent or relative of one of their players). I have only ever used it once...in the game I referenced where my son, who loves umpiring, was exposed to the worst fan base I have ever been a part of as an umpire/fan/player. One in particular was loud and rude would be the nicest thing you could say about him, I will choose to not use worse adjectives.
At the end of one half-inning, I went to their coach and told him, "Coach, I need you to handle your fan or I am going to have eject you". He said he didn't know who I was talking about, and I said "Coach, yes you do, everyone in the ballpark knows which one it is". I never heard a peep from that fan the rest of the game until the last out was made, at which point he told my son to do the world a favor and go die.
Point is, as an umpire I will not engage with a fan. I simply told the coach to take care of it and he did.
You are right though, warnings should precede that point unless it was an out of the blue, just awful comment.
Thank you for your input, I sincerely mean that. I was not being argumentative. I respect the wisdom any umpire shares, especially ones that have worked their way up to the college ranks.